27 May 2013

Men, According to My Man

Sorry mommas if I have been accidentally on blogging hiatus. Blame it to my husband. Hehe. Well, the previous post was already mostly much about him (and the dining table), so I thought of writing a highlight article about what and how R is (and there you go saying, "again?!" Lol). I'm striking whilst the iron is hot, ya know. My marriage with my Army kind of guy is going through such a good time so let me share with you some realizations/facts/tips about men and how I fared with my own.


But wait, I will do you a favor. This will not solely revolve around my confession of love for him (did I hear you say yay?!) but something like making men happy. If I have a reader who's NBSB, this could be like an insider of sorts. I think I have told you, ladies before that I had a few guys in my life prior to my soldier so I kinda know a bit about these male homo sapiens. I am not making it sound like I'm an expert here, but I will base my write-up on how my man showed his entirety to me. No pun intended. 

HOW TO LOVE YOUR MAN TO MAKE HIM LOVE YOU BACK
1) If a man can't cook, you don't need to be a Julia Child. Fancy dishes will not make them realize you're a keeper. Whip up a hearty meal from a canned good and satisfy his hunger. He will forever thank you for that. But take note, the hearty meal should taste better than what the neighboring small eatery offers. Study. Watch shows with lots of food porn. Read a cook book. And practice, practice, practice. Or else, he might go there all day every day where Aling Shirley lives. However, if he is an Erwan Heusaff, don't just sit like a queen waiting for his gourmet specialties. Clean up his mess. Or take a nice bath. You might make him wanna skip the dessert. ;) 
2) Know his favorite color [on you] and own few pieces with that hue. I noticed how my husband would lovingly look at me when I wear any top in shades of green. He's not the kind of guy who could give out a sappy one-liner that will sweep me off my feet, but the way he looks at me is enough proof that I can still turn him on. Naks. How to really know your man's choice of color? Make him buy you a shirt. R did and I took that cue. 
3) I am not a sports-enthusiast. Or anything happy when it's about sports. I am not a weakling and I can actually be really active if I have to. It's just that there's something about it that makes me feel so uninterested. But if your man insinuates he wants to watch Lebron's bragging moves and see Miami lose (oops, that's what I heard from him, don't hate), be the most supportive wife or girlfriend by making yourself busy. That is, if you can't stand seating next to him, like I do. 
4) Give him something he really likes. This may be tough because men stuff are expensive. Have you shopped for your beau lately? They have the most expensive shoes! And you can't buy them a shirt from a local tiangge. Let's hint ourselves by knowing what their fetishes are. Is he a movie buff? Buying him the DVD copy of his favorite film won't hurt but it's going out with him looking for a Lazy Boy or helping him build his home theater that could put him in nirvana. How does he dress up? If he's into tributary shirts, you could try Team Manila, Art Work or Ekoy's. That could be so motherly, actually. Hehe. But it's good enough. If you want to go beyond motherly duties and make him melt, it's belting out his favorite song in your most rocker self in a videoke night with friends that will make him proud you are his. I'm not just sure about those guys whose favorite song is Pusong Bato. Can you pull it off? ;) 
5) Lastly, a normal human being farts, picks booger and stinks. So make yourself normal with him. A man who can stand the foul smell of your Malabanan-awardee fart can be the same man you will spend your life with until you decide to crochet with a cat rolled on your feet while you're on a rocking chair. I'm so blessed I found mine already. :D
These are just a few but I hope it's fun to read and will eventually help. Can you add more that your man indirectly taught you? I'll be glad to see that in the comments! :)

12 comments:

  1. I'm so inlove with this article. Yes to all!! Especially the number 5. Hahaha. I still want to know where you got that shirt ♥

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  2. Love this post! :D Here's my "feedback"

    1. My husband hates canned goods and anything pasta. He prefers veggies and fish. He doesn't even like to eat the same food twice in a row! Good thing I know how to cook or Aling Shirley's carinderia will be rich haha

    2. We both love blue! :D He laughs at me when I wear pink LOL

    3. Although I was an athlete growing up, I've ditched that a long time ago in favor of work :/ Bobby loves boxing and basketball - It was love the game or let him watch alone. Well, I learned to actually love boxing and would look for streaming links so we can catch a match live :D Watching basketball? not for me. I let him enjoy that while I do something else haha he likes Miami ;)

    4. I super agree! Men stuff are super expensive! and boy stuff, too! :/ The lovely outfit I wore for my cousin's wedding was just P250 at a mall here. Buy a man a similarly prized t-shirt/polo and it is bound to look like a very cheap clothing item :/ Bobby LOVES shoes - expensive men stuff again! - and expects me to be the one to buy them for him uh-oh This is also out of proportion when compared. I can buy shoes under P1000 (even less than P500!) that I can enjoy for several years and yet his shoes are never below P3k! ouch :D Thankfully, the shoes he needs for his job are covered by uniform allowance and are less expensive.

    5. I can also agree on this. Bobby has lived through my ugliest looks - imagine your faced all puffed up because of a toothache - and still love me for me (or so he says haha) ;) I agree with what you replied once to me, "We're blessed with the kind of husbands that we have" hahaha

    I have to add that, sometimes, you really just have to accept your man the way he is. My husband is not the romantic type of guy who gives flowers, chocolates, etc. I've only received those once in our entire relationship - flowers made of chocolate - and only because he was on duty when a colleague was selling those at nadala sya sa sales talk :/ He'd treat me out on a date anywhere I want basta carry lang ng bulsa nya but he never goes out of his way to buy me flowers even if I beg him to haha if you couldn't learn to accept that, heartbreak lang everytime meron occasion so I learned to simply let it go. ;) I did "hijack" him to give me balloons for mother's day. That was only successful because it was my cousin selling it and he had no choice because she delivered it to our house hahaha (http://www.chemist2writer.com/2013/05/mothers-day-with-my-boys.html) :D

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    1. Wow, Joy! Ang bongga ng comment mo! Bet ko ito, pang-blog. :)

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  3. This is great! We are both lucky to have husbands who loves us even at our worst. Your hubby looks like a funny man. Im sure your household is full of laughter.

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    1. When we're together, as in laugh trip lagi. Pero when we fight, drama mode din. Pang-telenovela. Hehe.

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  4. need to learn now how to cook!!! hehehe :D

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    1. Honestly, you should! Hehe. Especially kung hindi din marunong ang guy. Hindi naman kailangan pang-piyestahan ang lulutuin. Like what I told my friend who was starting to learn how to cook (now magaling-galing na siya), start from your and your man's favorite food. Good luck! :)

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  5. I'm so lucky hubby is also a videoke concert artist too. :D He loves it when we sing duets together (that guy can sing, though I'm better. BWAHAHAHAHA!) .

    And oh, find ways to make your man laugh. Girls like funny guys, and guys really like funny girls too. Hubby says it makes a girl seem more approachable and open to conversations. :)

    And if you're NBSB and WABN (wants a boyfriend now), hubby said not to make yourself always available for the guy you like - in short, wag yung isang text lang, ay gooo ka na. Pakipot daw ng konti, pa-miss. Pa-feel na hindi sya nagiisang lalaki sa mundo. Hehe. :D

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    1. Korek! 'Pag may sense of humor talaga, madali ng i-follow up ng kwentuhan. I think sa ganun ko din "nabingwit" ang mamang sundalo eh. ;)

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  6. One of a military wife must have attitude na napahirap is "dont ask, dont tell" but due to our 10 years togetherness eh na master ko na. I just listen, nod and smile. If the sentences is open it means he needs ur opinion and anything he say should be locked in 4 corners of our room. Hirap ng intel este sundalo pla. Just a new reader... like ur blog anyway.

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    1. Hello, Nina! True. There are issues na hindi naman sinasadyang maikwento pero hanggang dun lang, huwag na magtatanong after. Thanks for visiting my blog! :)

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