03 July 2019

My Formula to Be a Zero Worries Parent

I have two daughters, Sophia and Samantha. They have a 9-year age gap. People are always amused when they learn about that miniscule fact about my kids. Comments about how difficult it's going to be when they become adults are inevitable but is it really necessary to point that out?  I mean, isn't parenting a tough task in general no matter what gender and age gap our children have? I don't think there's a cookie-cutter way to follow, you know. I believe, though that there's no harm in doing what those ahead of us have done already especially if they actually succeeded. Well, this is a huge topic that a single blog post won't do justice but as a mom for more than a decade, please allow me to share with you a few things on how my husband and I raise our girls with zero worries.

My best ever life is to joyfully spend it with these two. ♥

Okay, before you judge me for being so internet-fake with the zero worries phrase, I hope it's clear with you that it's figurative. It's not possible to raise a child with zero worries! Moms worry all the time, I worry all the time. Anxiety is synonymous to my name. In fact, there are times when I can't even sleep at night thinking about my girls' future - career, first boyfriend and will they ever learn their way in the kitchen like I do? See how I worry for them 20 years ahead? I can be a worry freak, I tell ya. But worry begets wrinkles and palpitations, which I strongly avoid at any cost. So as the primary parent of our offsprings, I created a formula to actually make the impossible hopefully possible. The results cannot be seen and enjoyed yet but I'm holding on to my goal because I got a great God who got my back.

Would you like to know the formula? It's quite simple. Basically, a kid must have these three in order for a parent to have zero worries:

UNSHAKEABLE FAITH + PROPER EDUCATION + GRIT FOR GREATNESS = A ZERO WORRIES PARENT

Is it too much to take for your toddler, preschooler and even your tween? I know it kinda sound like a John Maxwell theory to success but really, it's nothing like that. 

Unshakeable Faith

This has nothing to do about the religion of your family but it pays to believe that there is Someone bigger than all of us. When your child talks to God (or to the universe or a plant or whatever) about her hopes and dreams, it makes her more excited about life. Talking to the Big Guy regularly who don't literally answer back is already a sign of faith! Her personal relationship with Him can make her believe that life is beautiful despite the many obstacles (i.e., stacking Legos, classmates who don't share Oreos or why she can't watch her favorite series on Netflix during weekdays) she's going to face. Sophia can't go to sleep, no matter how sleepy she is, without reading her devotional Bible. She also never forgets to say grace before eating. Meanwhile, my 18-month-old toddler knows that prayer comes first before YouTube during mealtimes.

And at the end of the day, when all parenting hacks, tips and tricks fail, you can leave it all up to Him. He is the most amazing parent ever!

Proper Education

We've tried progressive school, homeschooling and now she's back to an exclusive school for girls. My husband and I love learning and we both believe that having a proper education is the key to a decent country (and government). We put Sophia to her school now because we trust that they can help us raise our daughter well. I understand that not all families can afford to put their children in a reputable school. But it's part of my formula so there. 

Grit for Greatness

When I was younger, I thought I didn't have this in me. I thought that I'm someone who easily gives up after a failure because I thought that my mother's tough love wasn't what my emotional self needed. I recently realized, though that I actually am enjoying the fruits of this exact tough love I am talking about. You see, I dreaded my mother's hourly rounds of yelling bouts reminding us to fix our beds, clean ourselves, wash the dishes, etc. I felt like a slave then! I even reached a point when I hated Mama for always telling us to do house chores. I just wanted to study and be cute and enjoy listening to boybands. But here's the thing and I hope it reaches the back of the room - I still washed greasy plates and cleaned dusty rooms even if it was hard for me then because I knew Mama was right. I knew that what I was doing will be beneficial for me in the future. I can't enumerate the many benefits I'm enjoying now but one would be knowing how to make a house a home. Isn't that such a wonderful thing to have in this day and age of celebrating mess and clutter? So what did it teach me? Grit. Perseverance. Tenacity. And now that I'm a mom, I find myself doing all those house chores with my eldest. I always tell her that washing dishes (her main task at home during weekends) is as mundane as can be but it means that she has food to eat. The more the grease, the yummier the meals.

She loves it when we have huge bottles of dishwashing liquid, haha! 

To have zero worries as a parent is work itself but I hope that with this formula, it can be a bit easier for you to achieve your goals in raising a humble, hearty and healthy child. 

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Disclosure Policy: This post is sponsored by Joy Dishwashing Liquid but all thoughts and opinions are my own. Please allow me to share this part of their press release with you.


"With our effort to continuously innovate Joy to help Filipino families achieve their Best Ever Life, we introduce the new Best Ever Joy that can wash more plates with just one bottle. This means more savings for families that they can use to lead their best ever lives. The Best Ever Joy is so good that its new formulation was able to clean 17,500 plates with just one bottle of Joy, doubling our own record of 8,750 plates 20 years ago,” shares Meir Yap, Dish Care Brand Manager at Procter and Gamble.Joy celebrated this momentous occasion through the nationwide #BestEverLife Salu-Salo. The celebration first started on June 23, 2019, near the San Juanico Bridge."

27 June 2019

The original #BaonSerye is back!

My pre-teen Sophia is now on 5th grade. I think her level of appetite for her age, built and height is just right. I mean, standing at 5 feet tall with an effervescent personality, she literally gets hungry every hour. So now that she's back to regular school (read: homeschooled for a year, will tell the story why we quit soon), which we all welcomed with warm, excited hearts, it means this mama is back to her baon-making game again! If you're not familiar with how I make my kid's lunches, you might want to read this lovely feature about me by theAsianparent Philippines entitled, Meet the Foodie Mom Behind the Popular #baonserye


For two school years, I prepped Sophia's meals with lots of love, cute bento tools and wide array of snacks. Nothing much has changed this school year. I'm just gradually minimizing the cute factor in each baon since she doesn't really mind how her food looks lately. Again, something from her tummy sends message to her brain that cuteness can't make it full, anyway. She has days that she appreciates that her baon looks like it's straight from an Instagram feed (like today's pancake, chocolate syrup and fruit crisps combo) but generally, she's totally fine with whatever I serve her as long as it's healthy and filling. I'd like to believe that I'm a cool mom so I try my best to include fun in everything I do for my children. This was one of the major reasons why I created #baonserye in 2016.


15 May 2019

We Are Switching to QPants Baby Diapers and Here’s Why

With a 9-year gap between my two girls, Sophia and Samantha, I feel like I'm a new mom again. It's fun to actually experience it now that I think I'm a bit wiser but it can be quite challenging, too. With all the baby essentials that are available in the market, it's just so hard to choose what's really best for our children. This is why I'm thankful to be a parent at this time and age of social media where we can find comfort and answers from other moms with same dilemma as ours with just a few clicks on our phones.  

So to help my fellow mommies, who are in dire need of a diaper brand that perfectly suits their lifestyle best, I'm happy to share with you that I just found out about this new player in the diaper scene — QPants Baby Diapers! It's from the same company that makes Sunmed Adult Diapers, if you're familiar  with it. They used to just distribute within Metro Manila and some parts of Luzon only but because online shopping happened, QPants are now available nationwide via Shopee and Lazada! I'm sure those two e-malls are also your go-to shopping sites just like every mom with internet access. 


When I received my hefty supply of QPants Baby Diapers, I immediately changed Sammy's nappy to give it a road test. Coincidentally, she was using another brand that gets super soggy with just little pee. How disappointing. My valid excuse for buying? Well, we came from the camp, where my military husband is assigned, and that was what we bought in the commissary there. Good thing QPants arrived a few days after we got home. And guess what  I was pretty amused by its performance! 


30 April 2019

The fangirl in me wants to know — is John Lloyd Cruz really coming back?

As a fan girl, of local and international celebrities altogether, I got so excited to have seen the teaser of a well-loved shawarma brand in the country, Turks. I already knew who the mystery man was. I've seen most of his movies, I have kind of mastered his every angle. John Lloyd Cruz, Popoy to a lot of his fans, is back.


The teaser video posted on Turks' Facebook page has garnered huge number of comments and reactions from netizens who apparently missed seeing JL in the limelight. And it now has 3.2 million views since it was posted. Yesterday, Turks released the full video of the ad entitled Ang Pagbabalik on their YouTube channel. John Lloyd looks like he sincerely loves the life he lives now.

12 April 2019

What Parents of Toddlers Should Know About Walking

When Sammy has started sitting on her own, everyone was excited to see her walk already... And now that she has perfectly mastered her strides, who's following her, pacing with her all the time? It's not everyone, it's just me! Where are they now? Oh, they're chilling on the side, laughing and saying how cute she is. Haha! Well, if not for the summer heat, I wouldn't complain as I felt like I lost a lot of weight by doing so. But then again, the weather just makes me want to scoop her up and carry her as long as my back can handle. 


Don't get me wrong, mamas. I would love my terrific toddler to have as much freedom as she deserves but let's be real, running after a toddler isn't easy. It requires many underrated traits and character that parents and caregivers should embody. Would you like to know some? I got a few basics here.

08 April 2019

How We Make Our Marriage Happy

At 23, I was every inch of what I wanted myself to be  a fun and free college graduate who was working in the biggest broadcasting network in the country. Also, I had a cute military boyfriend who loved me back as much I loved him. I wasn't rich but I had everything I needed to be happy. For me then, my life was perfect. Things have changed dramatically, though when I got pregnant out of wedlock. Sadly, the boyfriend (who became no longer cute for me lol) and I had opposing views about the situation; it was expected that we didn't get married. Worse, I didn't have a job for the whole 9 months of carrying my little human. Just imagine how miserable I felt every time I craved a burger and I don't even have money to buy the cheapest kind.


While my mother took me under her care, I knew I had to do something for me and my baby. So during my first trimester, armed with resourcefulness and guidance from the Lord, I sold my huge magazine collection to a magazine store near our house. My collection of mostly Summit Media magazines was really that huge that I was able to buy myself fruits, maternity house dress and vitamin supplements. And just before my first trimester ended, my boyfriend (who became cute again lol) and I reconciled and decided to become partners in building our dream team. We knew we would never have our fun and free youth back but having a baby gave our lives so much meaning.

02 April 2019

Fish Escabeche

I may look like I know a lot about food but guys, I am just actually learning so much from the people I follow on Instagram! Take for example, Joey of @chichajo. I was watching her Stories when I saw the tagged online shop that sells seafood. Wow. I mean, who would think that you can now buy fresh seafood online, right? Search it, it's called @marvsboqueria.ph. You're welcome. Marvs sells different kinds of seafood! He also has an awesome package that includes prime beef steak, tiger prawns and salmon. It's quite costly; I'm still saving up for that so I can cook them on my birthday. Or maybe on our wedding anniversary. 


Anyway, I bought crab meat, tanigue fillet and steak and bakoko. I never encountered bakoko in the wet market so after I did a quick consultation with Mr. G, I decided to buy that. If you are following me on IG, you'd know that I made a lot of dishes using the 500-gram crab meat. With tanigue, I made kilawin from some of it for my husband. As for my new fishy friends, I made escabeche.