One day, my cousin Camille of Lollies and Lipsticks told me she'll seriously blog. I can't remember how it started but we just found ourselves in the park of their neighborhood and doing a pseudo-blog mentoring. Since it was technically my first, I was random and rambling and well, real. I told her how I felt about other mommy bloggers, why I sometimes don't blog, what makes me want to go to blog events and what kept me going. If you religiously read my isms, I'm sure you'll be a bit shocked to know that some of the revelations that I disclosed during that time are hidden on my posts. You see, this may be a virtual representation of my passions, life and how I live it, but really, it's not the end all and be all of who I really am. There are things I think are better left unsaid as it can break me or other people. Like what I always say, it's just a quark of my royal universe.
FIRST AND FOREMOST, BE REAL.
This blog is known as a mommy blog. A mommy blog is authored by a mom, of course. But in my heart and based on facts, this is a personal blog. It's more than momhood. It's about me. I have more stories as a woman than press releases, events aftermaths and product reviews. I don't write mommy-baby things exclusively. I write about myself, my likes, bit of my pet peeves, movies I watched, music I listen to and everything in between housewifery and mothering. For others, that multi-slashie thing may be labelled as lifestyle blogging but I beg to disagree. I can't be a lifestyle blogger like everyone else because I honestly think my life isn't something that other people would die for to have. My life is fun, I tell you! It's not just for most people, you know. My point here is: Blog your life as it is. Don't tell people to work hard if you basically have a lazy butt. Don't encourage your readers to eat quinoa when you actually don't like it in real life. Please be kind to yourself and stop pretending to be someone you are not. It'll backfire eventually.
POWER UP, ZOMBIES AHEAD.
"Blogging isn't for everybody". That's what I read from a comment Frances Sales made when talk about blog haters arose in one of the Facebook groups I'm a member of. I must agree. There came a time in my blogging journey that I just wanted to take a detour and go back to a quiet cyber life, away from the prying eyes of trolls. I made my Instagram and Twitter accounts private. I blocked some unnecessary people whom I think are mysteriously following my every move. And... it's all because of nasty comments that I have received here. It made me cry, mad and laugh. Haters gonna hate, it's true; that no matter what goodness you aim to bring to your readers, there will still be people who want to unleash that evil out of you so you can be as miserable as they are. A hardcore lesson I learned from the best person who could teach me that (my husband!) is to ignore. I know how fun and feisty it feels to retaliate by blogging about it, by sharing the news that people hate you. But let me ask you this ― what do you think of how your reader who loves to hate you will react? Victorious. Do not let losers win. Delete that comment. OK, if you can't help it, share it on your personal Facebook account in "friends" settings. But please, don't do this.
IT'S NOT ABOUT THE PRICE TAG.
Although I must admit that there are well-meaning bloggers who write to get paid for it, I will not keep you away from the truth that there are bloggers who do it just for a living - to pay the bills, to earn. Sometimes, these type of bloggers reach the extent of doing the copy-paste kind of research just so they'd have content for the blog. Oftentimes, they get paid for blogging about a certain topic that has nothing to do with them. Fine, it's still a noble job (as long as they don't plagiarize); this is just me, I believe that blogging is still different from journalism and content writing. I deem it as personal. Remember, blogging means personal chronological log of thoughts. Do you get my point? I don't know how they do it but let me just say that if you wish to earn through your blog, I seriously hope that it won't be your motivation. It will come after, I tell you. After all, success doesn't only mean being wealthy, right?
HELP, IN ANY WAY YOU CAN.
When I started this blog (once known as Bebengisms), I just see it as an outlet to the days when real and royal things overwhelm me. I blog whenever I don't have someone to talk to. I write when I feel like I can't keep these thoughts to myself. Everything was about me. I spend money on data and electricity usage, time and effort to feed these selfish desires. As my cyber palace turned two, I knew that I have touched a lot of lives. There were readers who would message, email or tweet me that they liked my recent post. There were moms who commented that my heartwarming letter for my daughter teared them up. There were random people, too who were just looking for something and found their way here. Touching lives does not necessarily mean that you will channel Mitch Albom or Paulo Coehlo and preach about how to live life and all that jazz. Just one thing and it'll be alright: Help them. Got no idea how? Let me give you three options ― inform, inspire or entertain.
Inhale, exhale. This may be information overload already. I shall explain the options on a separate post, soon. I hope I didn't bore you and that you'll tell me what you think of this in the comments! Just so you know, I love replying to it that topics get better and blog ideas sometimes actually come from it. Deal? Talk to you later.
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