27 March 2014

Bebengisms Turns Two: Making Bliss


So it has been two years. Two real and royal years, mutherbelles! I never thought I'd last this crazy beautiful world of blogging. Oh, make it craaaaazier world of mommy blogging. Moms, known to be supportive and attached and devoted in rearing up their children, can have their days of nasty anonymous comments and nonsense competitions. Yup, I am assuming that all my past and current bashers/trolls/haters aka readers who love to hate me, are moms. As for the nonsense competitions, it's the tiring and never-ending contest of who wrote the best article, who got to feature the sponsor first or worst, who's the better blogger. IMO, it's a sign of insecurity. Why can't we just support one another instead of lambasting each other? Why do we have to push others down to pull ourselves up? Is that how we want our children to envision women in general? Ohhhh, this momma can't preach that much 'cause I have my days, too, you know. I am not perfect. I never said that I am. I never claimed my life is even close to perfection. I'm just chill. I'm just embracing my life as it is, one day at a time. Although at night, I cry and pray to Him for some petty problems, I am generally happy. This blog has been a blessing to me. Believe it or not, really.

Through this blog, I virtually and personally met a lot of people ― real, unreal, blissful, pitiful, beautiful, airhead, class, crass ― all kinds! Through this blog, I felt like I'm talking to a person who knows more than pink, sparkle, ponies and cartoons. Through this blog, I get to do what I love to do and be loved for it, too. And that is, to write. Last week, my blog mentor and friend, Martine published my debut article as a contributor of Make it Blissful (MiB) entitled, "Can one really be a domestic goddess?" We, the contributors, are called #blissmakers. As how the compound word is formed: bliss + make. So yes, we still have to make it. It's not like, we woke up one day living the lives that we have now. I'm glad that Martine chose me to be one of her bliss-makers and that she specifically assigned us topics that she thinks best fit us. We write our bliss for MiB and cooking is my bliss. It's kinda challenging to keep up to people's expectation but like I said in that article, "The small effort to veer away from anything simply fried or poked from a can is enough to make things blissful for you and your family." You have to read the article to fully grasp the concept of my bliss. 


Anyway, that's not the only bliss that I decided to make! I realized that it should be in all aspects of my life. 

  • We, my husband and I, started to make our marriage more blissful by being our strongest and healthiest selves. No, sorry to frustrate you guys but I won't be posting photos of our almost-naked bodies just to prove to people that we exercise. We agreed that we'll just enjoy what we are doing: eat and get fit.   
  • I realized that I've been too hard on Pia that we have this daily yell fest at home. It's such an unhealthy relationship. I went back at one: Her definition of happiness. We bought her a pink lollipop, let her rode a carousel and ate cheese-flavored popcorn with her. We did role-playing again like what we used to do when she was a toddler. We took lots of silly photos of us! Check that on my Instagram! And to tell you honestly, there were less yelling. I felt like I have achieved so much today because I made motherhood my bliss and not just a chore.  
  • Weeks earlier, if you have noticed, I removed my Top Blogs Philippines and Google Page Rank widgets from the sidebar. Why? FREEDOM. From what, you asked? From the adversities to belong. OK. This is just me, my fellow blogging queens. Though I must admit that high rankings made me feel special many times, it still made me feel like I need to be on top to feel my importance as a blogger. Little by little, I stopped checking it. I gradually learn to unlove the fact that I'm always at the top 100 of Top Blogs Philippines under Home and Living Category. One day, I felt the courage to remove it. Guess what? I felt relieved! It's like, finally releasing myself from rusty chains of unworthiness. I now base my "blog worth" through its number of views and comments. If last year, my goal was to beautify my content instead of applying it on its design, this year's goal is to acquire the power to engage my readers. 

I hope you'll stick around despite the changes. Fret not my royalties, we will still virtually celebrate my blogoversary through a contest. I still have to gather the real and royal loot that will be up for grabs. It's on me but if you'd like to sponsor, I would love to have you as a royal partner. Email me: bebengisms@gmail.com! And oh, apologies for being quiet these past days here ― I made noise on Instagram anyway! I'm enjoying posting photos and sharing snippets of our lives there so I'm urging you to follow me there if you miss me here. ;)

Happy 2nd blog birthday to my cyber palace and to all of us who are here. There's nothing more royal than being real! ♡

11 comments:

  1. Congratulations on your anniversary. Please continue to write and touch people's lives. To touch a heart through words is magic in itself.

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  2. Congratulations Denise! More blissful blogging years to come! :)

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  3. Congrats and Happy 2nd blogging anniversary (tama ba?) and more blissful blogging years to come!

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  4. congrats for 2 successful blogging years, Denise! :)

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  5. Congrats beks! It's been 2 years of crazy blogging bliss! I'm really happy for you, but i'm most proud of you coz from being a stay at home mom, you made something beautiful by creating this blog. Expect more support from me until your golden anniv. Hihihi :) love you beks!

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    1. Thanks, Jinggay! I'm hoping for more blog collaborations para umabot man lang ng 10 years! See you soon. ♥

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  6. From being a "beki" fan to your royal stalker.. i mean fan hahaha.
    Happy 2nd Blog Anniversary Bebengisms! <3

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    1. OK lang yan, Istin! May 'stalker tendencies' din ako sa mga favorite blogs ko! :)

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  7. Happy 2nd Blogversary Denise!

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