16 March 2014

Why I Think It's OK Not to be Skinny


I used to weigh 110 pounds 8 years ago; for my height, 5 feet 4 inches, it's normal. When I got pregnant, on my 3rd trimester, during my last weigh in, I saw a whopping 175 pounds in the weighing scale. I was not even the slightest disappointed 'cause I thought it was due to my pregnancy. I sure did feel disappointed when I knew that my baby only weighed 5.94 pounds when I gave birth to her. Tsk, tsk. The rest of the 175 was all me. Whew, numbers and Math, it make me sweat. Haha! If only losing weight is as easy as calculating basic Math problems, I could have gone back to my pre-pregnancy body in a jiffy. It's just that I feel like I just can't do it yet; especially now that I'm passionately cooking for my husband, kid and blog. Ugh, excuses. I have to have plans for my body. La-dee-da. Oh, I actually have!

Really, I have plans for my body. I have practical and realistic plans for it. I'm not going to lie, I'm still not sure if I can do it but I think, the moment I believe I can't is the moment I quit. So I'd like to believe that I can, even if I know that it's gonna be a tough journey. About my practical and realistic plans, it's just simple: I want to be fit and fab for my hubby and baby. That is to lose my bulging belly that makes me look like I'm wearing a belt bag and to not pant even after doing endless mommy chores.  I'm not that ambitious yet to reach 110 pounds again and clad Forever 21 size 1 clothes because 1) I'm not forever 21, I'm turning 30 this year; 2) I find voluptuous women sexier; lastly and honestly, 3) I'm not after the 'freedom' to post a bikini-infested photo on my social media accounts to prove that I'm a hot momma. My husband never told me to exercise or lose weight or be an Ellen Adarna kind of hotness (have you seen her on IG? Bomb dot com). Perhaps because he has a bulging belly, too. Hihi. But yeah, he told me that if I'd lose my extra bilbil, I can be near perfection. OK, he's head over heels in love with me to say that. I'm not going to be near perfection if I'd just lose it since I need to tone my arms first and cut half of my thighs to look like the "usual sexy of the society". Anyhoo... going to my plans, here they are ―
Cook healthier dishes so I'd eat healthier food. I'm a carnivore so this will be a big problem. I guess I need to lessen my sugar and carb intake. Lessen, not ban. And fruits and veggies must always, always be around. I feel bad that Pia broke my blender. We could have been enjoying fresh fruit smoothies, especially it's beginning to look a lot like summer! 
Water, water galore. Yummy and oily dishes call for some iced-cold Coca-Cola, yes? But really, water is enough. It could be more than you think it is. I used to do that when I was still working as a Real Estate Sales Trainer. Gabbing for 3 straight hours can dry my throat and cramp my legs. Water was my friend. 
Walk as long as I can. With this scorching heat, walking can be infuriating; but a lot of people have attested that 30 minutes of walk per day can help you lose weight and regulate the blood circulation in your body. Actually, it's running that I'm so itching to do. Sadly, I don't have running shoes. 
Exercise. *crickets* Must be the second toughest thing to do next to diet. I just can't stick to a routine. I get bored, my body gets bored with that 4-minute workout that I used to do two years ago. It excites me that I'll be going to a Yoga sesh on Saturday with some bloggy belles. I hope I can always remember the routine so I can do a follow-up here at home.

It's not easy as it sounds. It takes discipline and motivation and goals. If my goal is to reach 110 pounds in a month, that will be suicide (I'm 130 now). If my motivation is to hear (read) people say "ang sexy mo na!", then everything is superficial. I'd rather hear (read) stuff like "you look great, you look happy, you're stunning" than "wow, ang hot naman" or "grabe, ang sexy". I'm not that type of woman anymore that get pathetically jealous with FHM models. I envy Nigella Lawson, who at age 54, had still managed to look regally royal and be a Vogue cover girl. If my discipline goes like: exercise and diet for a week and eat like a caveman for two weeks then sorry, I'm stuck in a pigsty. So what am I trying to say here? I just want to tell myself (and maybe the rest of the mommalandia) that it's really OK not to be skinny (like our favorite celebrities). What we should aim is to be physically, cognitively, emotionally and spiritually healthy. But in case there will be judgmental people who'd bully you for being 'too healthy', take what my kumareng Jennifer Lawrence had said here 


*Photo source: MTV Act

15 comments:

  1. Bagay nga sayo yang body mo. Ung 2006-2007 para ka lang hindi kumakain. hahaha. Tama, trimming lang ok na. Ako kailangan ko din itrim ang mommy pouch ko. Pag sinipag nalang. I feel so lazy to work out pa. I tried cutting on sweets like iced teas and the like, unfortunately, I can't pa. Medyo grabe din appetite ko ngayon, pang construction worker lang. OMG. I blame it on breastfeeding. lol

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    1. I was always puyat, was smoing and yes, walang enough food! I need to tone my arms and legs and remove my bilbil. :)

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  2. It's alright not to be skinny but I would love to be fit and (proportionate) healthy.

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  3. Hi mama! I think you look fine and your game plan works. As long as your healthy, you should be good. I think in our society kasi they think skinny is healthy which is not necessarily the case. :) Keep it up -- healthy and strong is the way to go! ;)

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    1. Yeah! Especially here in our country where most Filipinas are petite. :)

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  4. I couldn't agree more to everything you said here Denise. Losing weight has been a forever challenge to me since 2012. After giving birth to my second child, I ran 3k 3x a week and ate healthily. I lost the pregnancy weight and was back immediately to my pre-preggy weight. I felt really strong and healthy that time.. I became complacent and became very busy at work again. I stress-ate, I stopped running, and I ate unhealthy food again. Of course the unwanted pounds of fat came back. My learning: Consistency, Discipline and Willpower are the keys to successful healthy diet. Yes not to achieve a hot momma status/body, but to just feel good about yourself and for overall well-being. Nice post Denise!

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    1. Wow, Louise! You pretty summed up my ramblings in a concise paragraph. Thanks for visiting the blog. Miss you and looking forward to your blog's makeover! ♥

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    2. I miss you too! See you soon! huugs!

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  5. Kaya yan. Just exercise, drink water, drink fruit smoothies. And be patient :) I'm doing the same thing now.

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    1. Thanks, The Goddess L! :) Yun nga, water galore and exercise.

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  6. I'm on to the same goals as you. I guess marriage and motherhood change our perspective on things. God bless on your health goals. Have you linked with Cheryl Goodman yet? She's looking for bloggers who are on a health journey to link to. :)

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    1. No, I haven't! But I'm not soooo serious with the getting fit project. I just want to eat healthily and be the happy momma I should be. :) Thanks, May! ♥

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  7. okay okay.. Well I agree,when I was in college, I was quite heavy weight,then I became skinny
    then when I got preggers, I gained weight and became heavy again,, but now.. Gosh,, I became thin once again,, and some people say that I looks like malnourish.. hayss. Well as of me,a bit chubby is better,but not too heavy.. (gets) hahaha don't know what's the term to say..

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    1. Ya, I got ya! Hahaha! I still want to have curves and not be bony or macho. ;)

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