20 August 2013

What You Read is What You Get

That's me. But first, allow me to tell you more about why I said that.

I remember my sister N and I had a text-versation few days ago about the bag she bought from an online store on Instagram. She said that she originally ordered red but what was delivered to her was pink and that the one who received her order was not accommodating. I told her she should have written that in her caption to serve as a warning to other people who might order from them in the future. She said that she doesn't like doing that. I didn't argue with her. I thought it's really her personality ever since --- keeping mum to avoid arguments --- a personality I will never ever have. 

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I can be a tactless b*tch; my family and close friends know that. I just learned to mellow down a bit when I already had a child, who looks up to me. I want her to be the girl I was not. There are times though that I just can't help it. I really speak up when I think I should. 

Examples:
  • I'm in a line (counter of a supermarket, MRT/LRT, basta nakapila) and the person behind me is just too close I thought he/she is my backpack. Kairita yun 'di ba? Hindi naman bibilis ang pag-usad ng pila kung didikit siya sa akin na parang konsensya ko.  
  • More than a year na akong hindi smoker so it really pisses me off 'pag may naninigarilyo malapit sa akin. Worse, ibubuga pa sa mukha ko kahit pinakita ko ng I'm covering my nose. Even Rhambo nakakatikim sa akin when I smell smoke inside the car (he has restraining order when he's home hehe).   
  • When people (family or stranger) compare my daughter to other kids. I can tell you things that would hurt like a dagger to your ego.
These are just few of the incidents that you will see the fiery side of me. I'm not really the type who can endure a piss-worthy situation. I can't just smile and pretend to be a goody-two-shoes because I'm not. I am like that in 'real life' so I hope you see that on my online life as well. I filter the things I post here and on my Facebook page though but if you meet me in person, you will actually agree that what you read is what you get. I thought of all of these after reading Martine's post about why she thought she will never be an 'ideal' lifestyle blogger. Go ahead and read it, it's one of my many favorite posts she has written.

I don't regret that I gained a higher rank in Top Blogs Philippines and had a thousand plus likes on Facebook because of my slew of giveaways. But honestly, it was a sad kind of success. At the end of the day, I question myself. Does it really make me happy? Does it really make me a good blogger? Does popularity really matter to me? When I was starting this cyber palace, I said on my very first entry that I will blog "not to brag about how cool my life is or to let people scrutinize my writing capabilities, but to simply share what I think about something every now and then." 


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The reason why this was called Bebengisms is because I am Bebeng and these are my isms. Simply put, I write for my sanity. When thoughts are too heavy to be caged, I release it through this blog. I write because I think that my family and friends are tired of listening to me. So I try to reach out to other people in the hope of finding solace amidst the obscurities of life. More than anything else, I write about my experiences as a mother. This crazy-happy job I signed up for is too surreal not to be shared with a fellow 'worker'. As much as I'd like to give my daughter the privacy she deserves, I still chose to tell her story here so we have something to look back to when she's old enough to start a blog of her own. There would still be giveaways here and there, don't worry (charity begins at the palace, ika nga) but as a blogger, I don't like to be remembered as a Willie Revillame. I want to have the Vic Sotto levelz. Well, pwede din Vice Ganda but I'd rather be classic than popular. I want to monetize this blog as well, of course. Take a look at my sidebar --- it's blessed! Who wouldn't want it, right? 
However, as far as my posts are concerned, there will be a big change. You, my readers, may have noticed that; because I have noticed, too that I get quality comments when I write quality posts
My heart swells whenever I read lengthy chikas. I feel like I'm on a brunch date with long-time friends. I actually want to mention those readers who do, pero baka magtampo kasi yung iba na hindi pala-comment pero nagbabasa talaga. Hehe. 

I want to end this post by saying thank you to my momspiration to bliss, Martine: you helped me change the way I think of life as a mom blogger through your posts. To my badass writing idol, Frances: you are a great testimony to my "what you read is what you get" mantra, you rock. And most of all, to you who stick with me during my biggest blow last year. Remember LB's classmate A's mom? If you are a new reader, it's something that made me want to almost quit this. But hey, at least I've learned! Ganun naman minsan ang buhay eh, we learn the best way through the bad experiences we have encountered. What's important is we change for the better, but staying true to our skin. Right? :)

20 comments:

  1. Awwww, thank you, D!!! This post is super encouraging. We've gone through the same things in this blogging journey, and in the end, the one thing we've learned is that people come and go, but it's our stories and anecdotes that live on. Not the promos, not the contests, not even the money that we make in blogging (which isn't a lot anyway). What matters is that we found friends, found fellow storytellers. I can't wait to hang out with you more! See you this Saturday!!!

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    1. I feel blessed that the people I look up to are very humble that I am treated as a friend and not anything else. Super thank you to you, Martine. Aside from the dainty lifestyle I fancy about you, it's your positive outlook in life that made me decide to try on taking the road you traveled on. You are a real royalty. :)

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  2. Truelalu the last statement madam. Change is a great sign of progress...and I believe of humility too. :) It only shows that you see room for improvement in what you do and that you are willing to make an effort to always be better.

    More power to Bebengisms!

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    1. Thank you, Tin! Your attention means so much to me. As in. Hope to meet you soon. Para magkita din mga baby girls natin. :)

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  3. Hi Bebeng,

    Nice to know a similar-minded woman, like you, I can be tactless and can be quite opinionated. Somehow, when I blog, it sort of calms me down, and I remember things that I should be grateful for, instead of being negative. I think at the end of it all, your interesting stories and viewpoints will be the one to sustain your blog readership.
    I don't qualify for your giveaways, since I'm overseas (hehe), but I still like the way you write! :)

    Ays

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    1. Hello Ays! I visited your blog and I love it. ♥ Ganda-ganda ng template. I will add you nga to my blog roll, para ma-stalk este mabasa ko din posts mo. :)

      Thank you for reading ha. Yun din nga ang point ko in blogging na ngayon ko lang ulit sinasapuso: to tell a story. Wala din naman kasi ako masyadong maishare na info about new brands or products kasi I rarely go out. I choose the events na din naman na pinupuntahan ko. Tsaka konti na lang invites. Hehe. My dream is to be a writer, a writer who tells stories. Kaya yun ang gagawin ko. :)

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  4. Haha. I'm the ate Nicole and you're definitely Steph. Minsan sya na nakikipag away sakin. Hindi ko keri makipagbangay at kahit nasa tama ako, minsan I end up on the wrong side. Ugh.

    Anyway, I guess you have found more cyberfriends now than haters who dare not give their identities. :) So chill lang. It means you're sikat na. Besides, the 'Powerhouse Bloggers' are your friends now, who wouldn't be jealous!!!

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    1. Naku, as much as I would like to accept na sikat ako eh parang hindi ko naman ramdam yun. Masaya na ako na may mga nagbabasa nito, like you. Pero kung makikilala, eh why not di ba. Pampasarap sa pakiramdam minsan. :)

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  5. Oh, I forgot. I voted you here: http://lolliesandlipsticks.blogspot.com/2013/08/i-am-grateful.html

    I think it's like a game where you get to appreciate your fave bloggers and then send the love back when you receive one!

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    1. Ay wow, sige nga I'll check! Thank you! Let's hang out soon. Pamani-pedi tayo together. Laitan ng paa at ingrowns. Haha! :)

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  6. I'm a self-confessed giveaway addict. I love joining contest especially if these contest were hosted by my favorite bloggers. But honestly, it's kinda sad to see blogs that doesn't have anything except for the giveaways. So it's really refreshing to read blogs like yours amidst all these "giveaway blogs". I love reading your stories especially your conversations with your little princess. I may not always comment, but I am always here. :)

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    1. Awww. Thank you Nelabratinella. I was once a giveaway addict, too. Kulang na lang gawin ko ng buhay ko. Hehe. :)

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  7. "Remember LB's ......." - aw naku tinamaan ako dito.. :)

    Mommy Denise, di ko pinagsisihang nakita ko tong blog mo. kahit na sa giveaway ko lng to nalaman pero eversince tutok na tutok ako sa mga maiinit, masasaya or malungkot mong mga chikas.

    God bless you and more power to your blog!
    Onti kembot nlng setyembre na.. ramdam ko na ang dagdag na pagtanda ko at ang party ng taon sa Bebengisms :)

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    1. Hehe. Ikaw may kasalanan ng lahat! Chos. :)
      September din birthday mo? Cheers! ♥

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  8. go lang ng go :D wala akong masabi sa haba ng POST mo :D basta ang alam ko, napunta ako dito dahil sa mga giveaways mo :D ngayon naman dahil sa mga posts mo :D kaya sulat ka lang ng sulat, susubukan ko din mag sulat ng maayos haha

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    1. Yun na nga, kaya thankful din ako sa pagka-hook ko sa giveaways dati kasi may bumisita ng blog ko. Effective tactic naman talaga ang maghost ng giveaways to drive traffic eh. Kaya lang minsan nawawala yung pagiging ako sa mga posts kasi ang aim ko lang is makagawa ng post about the brand. When I reviewed my 2012, mas marami ang giveaways kesa sa story ko bilang nanay. Eh hindi naman ako giveaway blogger, mom blogger ako. :)

      Pasensya na sa haba ng post, Zoan! Ganito kasi ako dumaldal in real life. As in. ♥

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  9. Hello D, first of all, I'd like to say congratulations to your blog's achievements. Like most of your readers, your writing style is so sincere, very real and no b.s. alam mo yun? When I met you, I know that what I see in person is the one I've known online. I too had been seriously moved by Martine, the person I've looked up to since Day 1 of my blogging stint. I've learned a lot from the workshops I've attended that in order for us to sustain our blogs and keep it going is to write from the heart and be a sincere story-teller. Our readers are intelligent enough to know what's real from what is not. And you my dear, you're a great and very brave story-teller! And that's what makes you unique, a stand out! I salute you dear! Keep on inspiring others, myself included. I would love to meet you once more and hopefully hang out longer for a lot of chikas! I hope our Halo meeting will be followed soon! Take care! See you around D! :)

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    1. Aww. Thank you for reading my blog, Louise! Yes, I hope makachika nga kita ng mas matagal. And videoke, too! Hahahaha! Chos lang. :)

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  10. I had been blogging since 2006 and when I learned that I can make money thru blogging I jumped into the band wagon, too sad that because of that nawala yung personality ng blog ko...puro paid ads, but now I am back once again sa blogging..Back to my old self where my blog is my haven of thoughts,undaunted of the direct Advertisers requirements to write only in ENglish... Ngayon just like you what you read is what you get...Ibabalik ko ang aking "Gusto" at Mojo sa pagsusulat sa -paraang alam ko...Ibabalik ko ang nawalang personalidad ng aking blog dahil ang aking blog at ako ay iisa. This post is also a must read for bloggers

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    1. Yun nga din. We lose our real selves when we start to wish to do what others are doing. I wanted to be a famous lifestyle blogger dati. But then I realized, my lifestyle isn't as fab as theirs. To each her own talaga, but I guess us who write for the blog solely for our souls are those who could really touch a reader's heart. ♥

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