05 August 2013

Anonymous Comment

I started this blog without the intention of making myself famous. I didn't even think that I would be a mom blogger. I just wanted to write. Well, I'm a mom so might as well be one. I opened a few pages of my book of life in the aim of making my readers relate to what I'm actually experiencing. I love reading comments from people I haven't met, I feel like they're also sharing their lives with me. It kinda makes the world small and I find it so cool. However, this morning when I checked my dashboard, I saw an anonymous comment. After reading it, I shed tears. I was deeply saddened. The attack was too personal that I deleted it right away. I knew it'd linger on my mind for so long if I didn't. It said something about how I was raised, that no wonder I was just at home, that my husband only married me because he didn't have a choice and that... I was already shaky by the time I reached that part - it was about my one and only child. It crushed my heart. I went to my then sleeping daughter and kissed her and hugged her. Sigh. 

I know I can disable the anonymous option of my comments section, but I still chose to enable it for the sake of my readers who do not know what to do, which includes my husband. I also know that it's like allowing complete strangers to say what they want to say to and about me. At first I was not affected at all, I sometimes laugh about it. Pinagkakalat ko pa sa lahat that I have bashers! I actually published some for everyone to see. I felt like I'm such an important blogger that someone wasted time for me. However, I realized I shouldn't be happy that someone hates me. It's not worth my time, too. I don't like to be hated, I want to be loved. If you can't love me, leave me alone. 

So to you who left that comment, you got what you want. You made me cry. I hope it made you happy. That's your last na ha. Ikaw din, digital na ang karma. 

Photo courtesy of Spicy IP


  1. hay sis, you know you've made it pag may bashers ka na. pero attacking your family per se is hitting below the belt already. *hugs* di bale, mahahanap rin siya ng karma one of these days.

  2. Hugs and fairy kisses, muther!

    Please don't let bashers and haters put you down. Haters gonna hate. Keep in my mind that at the end of the day, what really matters are those people you love and those who love you back.

    We, your readers, are drawn to your blog not just because you write well but also because we find you funny, witty and very straightforward. Konti lang ang bloggers na ganyan #alammoyan.

    So.. just keep calm and keep on blogging! ;)

  3. Hay naku!deadmahin mo na lang yang papansin na yan mommy Denise. Tsaka ganun talaga pag maganda ka, si maiiwasan na may mainggit. haha!

  4. +1 View din sayo yan Queen B. Dedma nlang. Some are really so miserable about their life, that the only way they feel better about their self is when they say something mean to other people.
    Sometimes it sucks when the attack isn't just directed to us but to our family as well. That is usually my tipping point, then I go ballistic.:) lol

    Anyway, I'm here Queen B if you need someone to talk to. Again, don't let insecure and pathetic people ruin you. Mamatay xa sa inggit.

  5. everything will be okay bebeng! atleast you know that someone read your blog and took time to comment be it good or a bad one. maybe that person does not know what you had been through to get the success you are enjoying now. i'm sure karma is on it's way. ^_^

  6. Thank you, ladies! Super duper thank you from the bottom of my cholesterol-covered heart. Mwah! ♥

  7. Big hugs to you, D! I'm sorry this happened to you, but don't fret. Anonymous commenters are cowards who extort tears and hurt from well-meaning bloggers. They don't even have the decency to post their names because they're more afraid of people than YOU are of wearing your heart on your sleeve. Haters = means your blog is being read far and wide. Own it! You are amazing! :)

    1. Awww, Martine! You just don't know how much I treasure the fact that you read my blog and makes effort to comment. I really look up to you as a woman, wife, mom, and writer. Kaya ang sarap ng feeling na you consider me as your blog buddy. Tama si Fleur, dedma sa hater na yan. Thank you talaga! ♥

  8. whoooooo.. Big hug mommy... those bashers are just inggit...So better not mind her.. #bawal ang epal sa blog ng mga pretty mommy... ^_^

  9. Ayyy... :-( Nakaka-sad face naman ang post na ito. May mga tao talagang katulad ni Anonymous na sobrang daming nega vibes sa katawan, he/she can't help but share. At nandamay pa ng pamilya. Tsk. From basher to lowlife ang peg nya dun. Isa lang ang sure ko dito muther... hindi sya masyado busy. Dami nya time manira ng araw. Di bale, malakas naman ang law of attraction.. nega sya...puro nega lang din ang dadating sa kanya.

    Just know that you really have readers who truly support and appreciate you and your blog mommy Denise. :-)I'm sure binabasa din nya 'tong mga comments dito eh...Nawa'y maliwanagan na ang pagkatao nya sa gusto nyang mangyari sa buhay nya. Hindi magandang gawing career ang pag-bash...lalo na't nagtatago ka pa sa pangalang Anonymous. :-)

  10. Hay sis, my friend Joei over at joeiandme.com also dealt with a nasty anonymous hater a few weeks back. We were joking na once you have haters of that level, ganap ka na talaga. So just think of it in a positive light sis. Sticks and stones kumbaga. Masakit man yung sinabi nya, nagtago parin sya behind an anonymous identity. No guts, no balls. Meanwhile, kahit sad ka kasi bumababa blog rank mo, this person has just made it known that people do take the time to visit your blog. Diba sis? Hugs! Deadma na yan.

  11. im not really a commenter type, lalo na i do not have my net na a month na cguro, ngloload nalng ako sa smart stick ko, but reading this really is heart breaking and i want to give you a "power cyber hug"^^, be strong... iba tlga pag family na ung dinadamay lalo na kasama pa ung anak mo.. things will go well even with bashers.. bec of them you'll receive more love...more blessings..CHEER UP^^, God bless..

  12. Hi Mommy Denise, I was sad when you said you felt sad because of your haters. Don't worry my dear Mommy Denise, still more dominant who loves you and your blogs for whatever reason than of your haters.....

    Always feel happy :) as your followers :)

  13. Hi Bebeng, it's ok hush tahan na (virtual hugs).. Nobody wants to be hated. But always remember you can't please everybody. I remember na may time na hindi tayo nagkaintindihan. But It doesn't change anything I still love you and your page. Kaya lang medyo lay low muna ako.

    Be strong ka lang.. Artista ka na now! lahat nag aabang ng post mo. Hayaan mo yan nagpopost ng di maganda wala naman maniniwala sa kanya dahil mas madaming nagmamahal sayo.

    1. Haha Michelle! Artista?! Jusko. We can only have one Juday. :D

      Anyway, ano ka ba hindi ko dinibdib yung 'misunderstanding' natin. We all have 'topak days' talaga. Hehe. Thank you for your support. Mwah! ♥

  14. Dear Mommy D (slash) Seatmate, whoever that commenter was doesn't deserve your time and effort. I can just imagine how you felt when you were reading the comment. Minsan parang may boses yung comment diba? Nakakasad talaga na may mga taong ganun. Don't worry, masmaraming may love sa yo. :) Hugs!

    Anyway, read this nalang. It might make you smile:
    Top 10 Messages for Haters (from The Morning Rush)
    10 "Hating me won't make me ugly. And it won't make you pretty either." -Eleapot
    9 "If you don't like me, you don't have to let me know, because I don't really give a damn." - Fierytale
    8 "My middle finger gets a boner whenever I think of you." - Nina
    7 "Bato bato sa langit, ang tamaan sana ma-concussion." - Yoss
    6 "I can't help but notice that UGLY starts with U and AWESOME ends with ME." - No Name
    5 "I'm a Disney princess and you're a troll - deal with it!" - Attyarj
    4 "Hated by many. Confronted by none." - Annia
    3 "This Christmas, I'm going to put a mistletoe in my back pocket so all the haters can kiss my ass!" - Joti
    2 "Your insult would hurt more if it were grammatically correct." - Abernathy
    1 "I'm busy. You're ugly. Have a nice day." - My Yangkeez

    1. Hahaha sa #8! :)

      Thank you for this, Ging. I'm so glad that my bloggy friends are here with me during this trying time. Mwah! ♥

  15. well, when we open up about our lives online, we also open ourselves to criticism. this is why i think we bloggers are courageous to do this.
    i agree with martine's comment. anonymous commenters who write insensitive and rude comments are cowards. just don't mind them and be assured in the knowledge that there are more supportive readers than there are negative ones.

  16. Hi Denise,

    this is my first time to visit your blog (and you see, i'm back reading na :P)

    it saddened me to read about this. I am new to the blogging world, and i enjoy it too much. I feel bad that some people would waste their time just to give negative comments.

    hugs for you.


  17. Sorry to hear that Bebeng. Ipagpray na lang ang mga taong ganyan. I think sa wordpress there's a way para makuha ang IP address ng commenter. I don't know if sa blogger may ganun din. Kung meron sana mas madaling ma-trace yun location ng hater na yan at ng maidentify. Next time scare them, tell them you got their IP address or you know them and hack their accounts.. chos! Cheer up!

  18. You know deep in your heart what's true and not. Haters are not worth your time and effort, they just rob you with happiness.

    Sharing with you this perfect reading from my subscription from the Osteens. God bless!

    Be Great in the Midst of Criticism

    “But I say to you, love your enemies, bless those who curse you, do good to those who hate you, and pray for those who spitefully use you and persecute you.”
    (Matthew 5:44, NKJV)

    TODAY’S WORD from Joel and Victoria
    If you’re going to pursue greatness, if you’re going to be a great businessperson, a great teacher, a great parent, a great leader, you have to understand that not everyone is going to cheer you on. I’d love to tell you that your family, friends and co-workers will celebrate you, but that’s not necessarily the case. Some people simply can’t handle your success. As you grow and increase, as God pours out His favor on you, someone will get jealous. Someone will start finding fault. Don’t be surprised if a relative tries to belittle or discredit you. You can’t focus on making everyone around you happy or you’ll start changing and lose sight of what God has placed in your heart.

    Remember, your destiny is too great to be distracted by people who are never going to affirm you. Don’t take it personally. It’s not about you. It’s their problem. Shake it off, run your race, and be great anyway.

    Having greatness in the midst of criticism begins with forgiveness. Don’t hold a grudge. Bless those who curse you; pray for those who spitefully use you. As you keep doing what is right, God will honor you. He’ll promote you, and you’ll be great in the midst of criticism!

    Father, I come to You today with an open and humble heart. I choose to forgive those who have criticized me. I choose to bless those who have hurt me. I choose to be great because You have equipped and empowered me to be great in the midst of criticism in Jesus’ name! Amen.

    — Joel & Victoria Osteen