I grew up in a Born Again Christian family. My mama said that I was two years old when she and our papa started attending a Born Again Christian church in Quezon City. Inevitably, in most Christian families, we went to church together every Sunday. It was where I first learned how to dance. I also memorized some parts of the Holy Bible because of Sunday School. I love being a Christian and I am proud to be one.
So when I posted this last night, I got a few private messages about it.
Why does it sound so easy for you? Aren't you afraid she'll choose to be a Catholic in the future? How come a Born Again Christian mom found it adorable when her daughter looked for a purple rosary?
I'd like to make it simple but please allow me to share with you this story.
When R and I decided to transfer Sophia to a different school, we only had two options: St. Scholastica Marikina (SSM) and Assumption Antipolo (AA). Both are exclusive, Catholic schools. However, SSM is just three blocks away from where we live, AA is almost an hour drive. SSM has less expensive tuition than AA, like 30k less. We originally chose SSM but God led us to AA.
You see, when I talked several times to SSM's principal over the phone, though she really wanted to accommodate my girl, she was worried that Sophia might get confused for practicing two religions as SSM is purely Catholic. R and I took that as a sign and went to AA. The day we inquired about their religion practices was the day we decided she'll be going to that school.
As Born Again Christian parents of a Born Again Christian student in AA, we were asked to sign an agreement that despite her religion, Sophia must pray how all of them pray. She must attend masses, learn about the saints and sisters and do what the other girls do. At first, it was one of my many concerns. I was scared that it might change her views and that we might disagree on that topic in the future. I used to ask how her teachers treat her. I used to ask if they made her do the sign of the cross. I used to ask the number of prayers in a day that they have to memorize. Then one day, I stopped asking. I prayed for it instead.
God, perhaps amused with how anxious I was, spoke to me immediately. I realized that religion isn't really what saves people from the seven deadly sins. It is not religion that makes us better human beings. It is not religion that keeps the world go round. Yes, religion is where you find the core of your faith, it is where you meet people with same belief as yours, it is where you grow as a God-fearing person but it can never, ever save you from hell. Love and kindness do.
That's what I like about how Sophia is now. She has grown into a gentler, more compassionate little lady. She is not perfect, of course! But to be honest, practicing two religions made her a better kid. For me, it actually widen her horizon. If the time comes that she'll talk to me and decides to be a Roman Catholic, I'll be okay with it.
After all, in my opinion, parents should not impose their religion to their kids. It is her right to choose wherever she will be completely happy in. Like what I told one of the people who messaged me about this, "We have democracy here at home. If I drink Coke, I'll let her drink Coke. I don't want her to smoke [cigarettes] when she's old enough to do it so I stopped as well. Ganun lang. We don't impose things on her. We strive hard to be good examples instead."
I would love to know your thoughts about this, moms! Let's talk.