13 October 2015

Please Remind Me To / 01



In this modern world of one-liner pseudo-wisdom and exchange of ideas, when you can't see who you're talking to in person, and it just feels so good to fight back with angst-ridden remarks – that's when the enemy strikes and you forget that your God will be sad and that there are words that you can't take back anymore. It happened to me last night. And while I basically know what I am doing and I think I did a pretty good job in not "making a scene" virtually, I still regret that I allowed it to happen. I thought that I have the choice to pursue what is lovely and make it blissful (yes, I just hafta use it). It's not too late to do it, though. Maybe for some, it's satisfying [to fight back] but having to do it online is a lose-lose situation; especially if you are doing it against someone who somehow makes it as her bread and butter.


So my dear friends, who care for me and love me, please remind me to:

- always choose my battles wisely. I am no longer fifteen who craves for attention and wants validation from complete strangers. At 31, I should know my worth, my value and best if it comes from me and no one else. Also, a status or tweet is not a guarantee of anyone's maturity. 
- ignore and shun away bad thoughts when I see an annoying post. What may be annoying for me may be cool for others and I may be annoying for some, too. Instead of mentally raising my middle finger to that person, why not use the index finger by sliding the page up. Let it go, really. 
- live my life outside my online sanctuary. While being active on social media plays a vital role in a millennial mom's online experience, still, the best kind of life happens beyond the likes and comments from people who don't smell your fart. Don't cook food just for #bebengcooks hashtag on Instagram, do it for the girl and R. Don't go to places just so I can check-in, just go. Don't prettify for selfie but for yourself. 
- blog about the bad things that happened only if I have already got through it. Blogging may be a personal thing and that it stands as an extension of your real life but it will be memories that will be unfolded in the future. I don't want to be reminded of the silly things I said online when I'm already old and gray and so much wiser. Or when the girl starts to have access to the internet. The horror. 
- never forget that I am a Christian. Enough said.

What else do you think should I be reminded of?

18 comments:

  1. Very helpful post. I myself got so mad weeks ago that I posted my rant online. But what you said in this post are all true. :)

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    1. It's not easy but it's better this way methinks.

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  2. A very good reminder. As soon as this was posted on the MIB page, I knew that I needed to read this article. Thank you for writing this Ms Denise :)

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    1. You are welcome, Fhely! Glad that you liked it. ♥

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  3. Well said. These are things that I keep reminding myself too. I cannot solve world hunger nor ease traffic in the metro. :)

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  4. we all make mistakes but what separates a good person is being able to recognize their shortcomings :)

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  5. Oh I love this post.

    Remind you to always Love yourself. And look at yourself as a radiant feminine woman :)

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  6. Basically be positive and try to look on the good side of things. I know it's hard but it's definitely for the better. :D

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  7. I agree with you. I never let my anger and negative vibes seen by many people in social media. What I hate the most are "parinig." It's very immature. This is a good reminder that we should "think before we click." Have a great day!

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  8. i love this... i guess its a reminder for me too! i feel you.. thanks for sharing! :-)

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  9. i just realized i read this post twice already... Such an inspirational post. I could somehow relate to most of it so i am saving this.

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  10. Yes, just ignore the bad vibes... lots easier and less stressful compared to getting worked up over them.

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  11. Say no to bad vibes! Ignore, ignore, ignore! Great entry!

    Xoxo
    MrsMartinez

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  12. Thank you for this post, you had me thinking too.

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  13. This happens to the best of us. I also need to be reminded of these things. Thanks for posting!

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  14. "Choose your battles wisely" --> similar to mine na, "you dont have to win every argument." Thanks for sharing, Mommy! :)

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