As what Toni of Wifely Steps advised me, I am reposting this lengthy caption here that I first posted on Instagram, my personal Facebook account and page of this blog. Here it goes.
"Medyo mahaba ito but I have a confession kasi. We don't like each other that much the past months or maybe years, R and I. Yes, we love each other. Yes, we are very married and I think we are our girl's "relationship goal". But you know, there are times na gusto lang namin pikunin ang isa't-isa. Minsan sadya, minsan hindi. Hehe. It's given in any marriage, in any relationship - ang mapikon sa partner. There were times (many times, I tell ya) na ayoko na, na ayaw na rin niya... eh kasi nakakapagod na nga. Pero eto pa rin kami oh! Kasi nga, wala, we can't live without each other!
I am not writing this to brag about our marriage. It's super far from perfection. Unang-una, hindi kami kinasal sa church. Wala kami nung mga malalagkit na tinginan na madalas makita sa prenup photos, haha. Nagka-baby muna kami bago kami kinasal. Tapos ayun pa, LDR. May mga times na nagseself-pity ako. Inggitera rin kasi minsan ang muther niyo. But recently, I finally realized and accepted that whatever our situation is, I'm blessed to have him. Our marriage may not be ideal, my husband may have shortcomings, I may have topak (ang dami, dude haha) but you know what, we're good. Steady kami. And all because we have the same goal in life - to live comfortably together.
I know there will be some who'll surely roll their eyes when they read this. Kasi nga daw may study that says na yung mga madalas na nagpo-post sa social media about their relationship, yun yung hindi talaga okay. May mga kakilala naman talaga akong ganun. But not us. We post happy stuff when we're truly happy and we're quiet (even in social media) when we're not. So alam niyo na. Hehe.
This lengthy testimony is for other couples like us who are in a military marriage, marriage without an expensive church wedding, marriage that came after the baby, and long distance marriage. Our marriage is not ideal but we can make it work. Ika nga ni Alma Moreno, dasal lang, dasal lang talaga."
The last sentence came out naturally. Hehe. Seriously, though - prayers do wonders! My closest friends know how much I really wanted to give up on us during those times na magkaaway kami. Our fights were intense! Teleserye levels, ganern. We even came to a point na nate-turn off na kami sa isa't-isa. As in konting-konting na lang, broken family na kami and Sophia will never have the happy family that she has right now. But because we just let love win, we're here. In fact, we will be celebrating our 6th year as Mr. and Mrs. on December and 10th year of togetherness on February 2017. Sana we can spend it out of town with our girl. Travelling has done beautiful things to our souls as lovers. The recently concluded summer has proven that.
Ikaw, what's your kwento?