I'm not sure how "Mommy Ganda" from this post is currently doing, but I hope my advice, together with the two moms who made a comment, somewhat helped her. Anyway, last night, I received a message from another mom asking me if being a stay-at-home-mom (SAHM) was my choice. Let's call her Mommy M.
I know how hard it is to choose between your career and the welfare of your children. If I were in your situation, with the the husband's blessing and all, I would choose my child in a blink of an eye. Yes, that explains why I'm now a SAHM. But we're not the same.
Allow me to share with you my story. It took me almost a month to think things over. When I was working as a Sales Training Specialist at a 27-year-old Real Estate company, I feel good whenever I finish a whole day of training, speaking in front of 60++ random people. It made me feel even so much better after reading their evaluation. There was an appreciation for a job well done. Lo and behold, fate played a trick on me, my only daughter got sick --- she had pneumonia. That was one of the worst situations I've been into. I was enjoying my job (despite the stress it brought) and then my child needed me. After a heart-to-heart straight-to-the-point conversation with my husband, I told my office friends about it, they were sad. My boss even rejected my first resignation letter! She even cried. She didn't want me to leave yet. But my decision was final --- I want to be with my daughter. Fast forward to now, I kinda miss being in the office. But hey, I got a nice blogging table here at home. I miss dressing up for work, but hello, I get to apply lipstick once in a while when I get invited to mommy events. I miss a little bit of shopping. Oh wellll, that's something which could take a backseat. It's not like I'm gonna die if I don't shop. But a new pair of flats won't hurt. ;)
Why did I tell all these to you, Mommy M? Because even if I feel so worthy and beautiful and successful as a career-driven momma, I know I could never be as happier as I am now. There are times when I tell Rhambo that I'd just go back to work because it's really a lot easier than being at home, but of course, "tulak ng bibig, kabig ng dibdib". I really didn't mean that. I am not telling you to choose being a SAHM. I don't want you to regret that decision later on. What I can suggest is YOU PRAY FOR IT. Ask for God's discernment. Listen to what He's telling you. I understand how you badly need to get your career back and the feeling of wanting to see your children's every milestone, but admit you're not a mutant with special powers. Moms are humans, too. We have our own needs that sometimes, having children is not enough.
To end this, let me share this quote that Mylene Dizon said for Mommy Mundo's Mom 24/7 Planner. I guess this would pretty sum up all the things I said, choose what can make you truly happy. *cyberhugs*