I am a 4-year-old parent. Yes, basically new. I have my own ups & downs parenting-wise. Being someone in "authority" (but should not look that way) is not an easy feat. I never see myself as a strict mother, but being married to a military guy who is always away means I should also stand as the father. Which also means he can't share the burden of disciplining our BRAT --- cavaliers' kids. Rhambo being away is not a new complaint anymore. Or, a complaint at all. I have learned to live with it. I have learned how it is to be a SOLO parent --- geographically. I have learned to decide on my own, with bits of advice from MIL & Mama. These mothers are good because they have raised their children in solo-flight. My mother lost Papa 1993. MIL lost FIL 1999. My mothers are widows.
They both have taught me on how I should rear Sophia. They have the right to do so, because Sophia is their granddaughter, and I am their daughter. But how about those people (in this case, mothers) who think highly of themselves when giving unsolicited advice? I mean, I respect opinions. But written words can really mean something else when it's not written appropriately. Why not use disclaimers such as "maybe this could work for you" rather than "my son uses this, and it's really effective!". All kids are different. They are not minions of someone who look exactly alike. So if your cream worked for your son, it doesn't mean it could work for my neighbor's kid's highly-sensitive skin. Do you get that point?